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Letting people go

Posted on: June 11th, 2014 by Sharon Ballantine

Loving-connections with others are such a vital part of our life experience, wouldn’t you agree? Sometimes these connections are romantic, and sometimes there aren’t any romantic feelings, just a simple adoration of another. A great friendship that feels good.

Sea Of Hands Showing Unity And TeamworkI came into this world thinking that if I loved someone, they would be in my life forever. At least they should be. It was devastating in my younger years, when a friend I had spent so much time and energy on, found other interests and other friends. I didn’t understand at the time that people change and this was how life is supposed to be. I wasn’t immune to this phenomenon; it just hurt when others did it to me.

It has been many years since my Law of Attraction studies have given me a real understanding of how and why relationships change. I have peace of mind that I didn’t have when I was younger.

The law states that like attracts like, therefore all of our experiences, thoughts and every person that comes into our experience are a match to us on some level. And this level is not always obvious to us.

Each of us is changing in every moment of our lives. You may be evolving at a very fast pace, depending on your life experience. In other words, The more you are in negative emotion and find your way back to feeling good, the faster you are evolving. Your personal evolution takes place once you return to being happy. The positive part of feeling negative is the evolution you take when you move from feeling bad to happy.

So, as you are changing and evolving, as others are too, you won’t necessarily be evolving at the same pace or in the same ways and you will no longer be a match. This can change relationships. The perfect match that was there at one time has taken another form.

It still hurts when someone you care about grows away from you, or when you seemingly grow away from them. You can take comfort in knowing that nothing has actually gone wrong and things are just as they should be.

But what if you don’t want them to go? Remembering that there is perfection in all of the situations of our life can bring you the comfort we need.

And when you let go of what doesn’t serve you and what is no longer working, you open yourself up to let in the new experiences, people and things that will delight you! A new space has been opened up and the Universe can fill it to your specifications, so be clear and concise in who and what you now want.

 

 

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6 Responses

  1. Rebekah says:

    Sharon, so much thanks to your blog. As I am going through this change in my life and as you stated the fact that we all go through these changes and it’s for the best’ helps reasure me of what I already know. And I need to be more open and direct with what I expect from the law of attraction. As this friend who isn’t the same friend was brought to me through the law of attraction process. Thank you so much for your news letters and so forth. It’s helpful to me often as I’m sure it is to many others also. Lots if love and blessings sent your way.

    • Dear Rebekah,

      Thank-you so much for your comments, I’m really happy that my blog was of help to you. Life is an ongoing process isn’t it? I remind myself everyday that nothing ever really goes wrong, even though it sometimes appears to. I appreciate that you’re part of my community, enjoy your day!
      Love, Sharon

  2. Nancy says:

    Hello Sharon,
    It is funny that today I look at an email address that I do not look closely at very often only to find your email with a beautiful picture and amazing blog that fits perfectly in to what is happening in my life right now. For over 20 years I have been divorced and still in love with my ex husband. For most of these years I have been single and still communicating with him. He tells me he is unhappily in his marriage and has kept me hoping all these years for a someday.
    Today I woke up early and updated my profile on a dating site and thought to myself “Things have to change”. I wasn’t sure what that looked like until I read your blog! Somehow I need to let go of that relationship which is of no benefit to me and move on without the broken promises of someday.
    Thank you for your words and I wish Blessings to you and yours.
    Nancy

    • Dear Nancy,

      Isn’t it amazing how we see just what we need to see in perfect timing? I love that. I appreciate that you shared your story and you’re now ready to move forward toward what will make you happy. That’s a wonderful thing. I wish you the best thank-you for reaching out. Love, Sharon

  3. Elaine says:

    Hi Sharon,
    What tools can we use to help get us “unstuck” about someone who has moved on in their life? I would like to be able to let go. For two years I have been praying, working on my talents like art and music, and trying new relationships. Yet I feel I need more help in how to get past my emotions about my ex. One could say things are going at the rate of perfection meant to be, but surely, there are some good techniques for shifting things up! Your thoughts? Thank you!

    • Dear Elaine,

      Thanks for reaching out. I’ll do my best to suggest something, but this usually requires a dialogue, as emotions can be complex. First, I know you’re feeling stuck, but saying it holds you there. The reality can be compelling, but what we say to ourselves and others is the reality we continue creating. How about saying and thinking “I’m in transition with this relationship.” It’s a start, and then it’s about changing your focus. If you would like to talk about this and receive a process, please opt in on my website for my free Power Session. It’s much easier to get results when there’s a dialogue. Thanks again! Love, Sharon

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